The Reunion (pre-reunion thoughts)

So now I’m back home for the weekend. It’s really good to be in KC; I miss this place and the people I still know here a lot. The reason for this trip is a bit unusual though. It is my 20 year high school reunion.

Honestly, I have weird, mixed feelings about the reunion itself. For the most part, I have neither seen nor spoken to nearly all of the people that will be there in something close to 20 years. There are a couple of exceptions and several of them have added me on facebook, but I have no recent connections to them.  Mostly, I like to think this is because I moved away from KC. However, I know I’m terrible at keeping in touch with people.

I didn’t have the dysfunctional high school experience that most people I currently know seem to have had. It wasn’t all super-happy-fun-times, but it wasn’t that bad either.  I spent  my high school years active and involved. I was in choir, theatre, student council, debate, mock legislature and UN, and even played sports a bit. Along with all of that I managed to skate, game, and party occasionally. I really was involved in so much that I knew pretty much everyone.

Despite this, I was in no way one of the cool kids. I was really quite certain that I was miserable about half of the time.
The thing is, I was part of a community; one I left a long time ago. Now I have an opportunity to see what happened to those people. I’m curious to find out what paths others took. I just couldn’t pass that up.

I also see this as an opportunity to reflect on what I have (and haven’t) done these last 20 years. I’m certain that my path has been far from optimal; at least it has been interesting.

So that’s why I’m at my reunion. Maybe I’ll get a chance to catch up with friends from days gone by. Maybe the whole thing will be a bust. Who knows? Either way I see the event as being a good thing by itself.

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  • http://www.machiavelliscat.com/lioreblog/ Liore

    I applaud your inclination to go back and use it as an opportunity for reflection. I don’t like milestones like that — I’m always scared that I’ll fall short. “You must be this accomplished to ride the 20 year reunion ride.” :)

    Anyway, nice to see you writing on a regular basis again.

    • http://sleepdepzombie.com/ SleepDepZombie

      Sorry about the long delay in a reply. I was doing everything (including the above post) on my phone over the weekend.

      As it turned out, most of my apprehensions were for nothing. It was a gathering of people who at one time knew each other taking an opportunity to catch up and see how each other was doing and talk about old times. There was absolutely no drama that I saw the whole weekend. Even a lot of the old cliques had largely broken down. People were just talking. I didn’t really see much in the way of judging.

      Now, I did really come from a pretty decent class in the first place so and I’m sure that is not true of all classes or schools. I’m really happy I went back for my reunion and will probably go back for the next one in five years.

  • http://www.pithlog.com Jessica

    I applaud your inclination to go back and use it as an opportunity for reflection. I don't like milestones like that — I'm always scared that I'll fall short. “You must be this accomplished to ride the 20 year reunion ride.” :)

    Anyway, nice to see you writing on a regular basis again.

    • sleepdepzombie

      Sorry about the long delay in a reply. I was doing everything (including the above post) on my phone over the weekend.

      As it turned out, most of my apprehensions were for nothing. It was a gathering of people who at one time knew each other taking an opportunity to catch up and see how each other was doing and talk about old times. There was absolutely no drama that I saw the whole weekend. Even a lot of the old cliques had largely broken down. People were just talking. I didn’t really see much in the way of judging.

      Now, I did really come from a pretty decent class in the first place so and I’m sure that is not true of all classes or schools. I’m really happy I went back for my reunion and will probably go back for the next one in five years.

  • http://sleepdepzombie.com/ SleepDepZombie

    Sorry about the long delay in a reply. I was doing everything (including the above post) on my phone over the weekend.

    As it turned out, most of my apprehensions were for nothing. It was a gathering of people who at one time knew each other taking an opportunity to catch up and see how each other was doing and talk about old times. There was absolutely no drama that I saw the whole weekend. Even a lot of the old cliques had largely broken down. People were just talking. I didn't really see much in the way of judging.

    Now, I did really come from a pretty decent class in the first place so and I'm sure that is not true of all classes or schools. I'm really happy I went back for my reunion and will probably go back for the next one in five years.